According to Jack Canfield you have to take 100% responsibility of your life and success.
It may seem obvious but most people don’t think they are 100% responsible for their life and success. To be honest I’m still convincing myself that I’m 100% responsible. The key phrase here being 100%.
On my journey to responsibility I have had to deal with three main questions:-
First, in taking full responsibility for my life and success, how do I account for the impact my environment has on how my life turns out? Environment includes the experiences that one goes through and the opportunities available to them. The legendary investor Warren Buffet once said that had he not been born in the US at the time he was, he would not have achieved the level of success that he enjoys today. I must agree my environment plays a role in how my life turns out. However, the choices I have made or not made have had a much bigger impact on my life than my environment.
Secondly, in taking full responsibility for my life how do I account for the random events in my life that significantly impact how my life turns out? By this I mean the bad or good things that randomly happen that we have no contribution to but have a significant impact on our lives. A freak accident that leaves you half paralyzed will impact how your life turns out. However, although being half paralyzed is extremely challenging, don’t you think how you choose to respond will have a far greater contribution to your quality of life than the freak accident? Just ask Nick Vujicic
Finally, as a Christian doesn’t God significantly contribute to my success? Personally, I believe that God significantly contributes to my success. Despite, the fact that I have to wake up every morning and work hard to pursue my dreams He plays a major role in my success. It is God who keeps me alive, gives me the strength, the wisdom and avails opportunities for me at the same time having His hand of protection over me.
I’m I still 100% responsible for my life and success?
To the extent that I still have the power of choice then I’m responsible. Having the power of choice makes us fully responsible for our lives.
I believe that despite my circumstances, and they could be brutal, ultimately it is my choices that determine how my life turns out. What I mean is that in the long term the choices I make have a far more reaching consequence over my life than anything else making me fully responsible for my life and success.
So if the logic is compelling, how come I and many other people struggle to believe that there actually responsible for their life and success? I think it’s because we want someone or something to blame for our mediocrity and failures. We simply don’t want to be held responsible. Rarely will an overweight person admit that there responsible for their weight. We even make excuses for them and blame everyone else and everything else apart from the person themselves for the weight.
There major benefits of taking full responsibility over your life:-
To change your situation– What don’t you like in your life? It could be your job, your neighborhood or your weight. As long as you believe that you’re not full responsible for your situation. You dis-empower yourself to change your life. You will always have a scapegoat to blame and an excuse for your luck of action. You will not take charge and change the situation. You will continue to play victim and do nothing.
To make things happen for you -For you to achieve your personal goals and live out your values and dreams you must take responsibility for your life. You can’t stumble into success and nobody will hand it over to you. You have to stop looking up to other people to do it for you and stop blaming circumstances for your failures. Your people skills will not just become better. Your leadership skills will not just develop. You must take charge of your life and work on them. Here is how you can begin to take charge and make it happen.
Deal with the past-You have to accept liability for your past decisions and actions .You must also accept responsibility for your current situation. You may be in debt, in a dead end job with no real friends, whatever it is you are in; you must first accept responsibility, then forgive yourself and begin to take charge. For me this is probably the hardest step. When I look at my life there is a lot I don’t like. All of which has been a result of decisions that I have made or not made. Somethings I can’t undo and I just have to live with but I still have to forgive myself and move on.
Stop the excuses – We give too much power to circumstances and love to be fatalistic. There will always be a million reasons why you can’t achieve your dream s. You can either seat there, give excuses for your mediocre life or you can shake the excuses and take charge and begin to change your life.
Begin to believe that you’re fully responsible for your own success and life– Again as long as you believe that your position in life is as a result of some external factor your dis-empower yourself to make any change. If you believe that you have no or little control over your life how then will you take charge and achieve your goals? You will tend to hide behind the external factors that you believe determine your situation.
If you believe that you’re fully responsible for your life, your thoughts, actions and character will show it. You will stop the excuses and stop playing victim and begin to make things happen for you.